Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Things that make me go hmmmm.......and the latest....

The last six to eight months have been such a blur with a LOT going on in my life and the lives of those around me......but instead of talking about that today, I thought I would just talk about nonsensical kinds of things....

When I'm standing in line to checkout at the grocery store, I always glance at the covers of magazines and lately one thing has flown off the cover and slapped me in the face.....



On the cover of one magazine, this title grabbed me.....How to look great in your 30's, 40's and into your 50's.....WHAT?????  So what about us 60 somethings???  WE want to look good, WE still care.....WE aren't OLD!  Maybe I should submit an article about looking good or at least wanting to all your life!

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The craziest things happen from time to time......the other night, the Superhero and I went to eat at an Italian restaurant that is not only one of our favorites, but owned by our sweet, Italian neighbors.  We had a nice leisurely supper after a stressful day and as we were walking out another couple was coming in so we stood back to let them enter.  My mind was on a completely other planet at this point and I was just navigating on cruise control so after the wife entered the gentleman guy continued to hold the door open for us.......I walked out and then the Superhero walked out and said thank you.  This ordinary looking, polite man said you are welcome and then snidely added .......you're welcome too mam.  I honestly didn't understand what he said at first, thinking he said you're welcome MAN!  Then it hit me and I asked and the Superhero laughed out loud and said, yes, he did indeed chide me for not saying thank you!

My blood pressure boiled because I AM A REALLY NICE PERSON......REALLY I AM!  So nice that I said I was going to go back in to explain the "two flesh become one" concept to this man and inform him that my husband was thanking him for the both of us!  The more I thought about it, the worse I felt because of course, I don't like anyone to think I'm not nice!  
The poor Superhero is still hoping I'll get past this and forget it so he can forget it too!  



So just in case you read this, sir......THANK YOU!!!  
And if I wasn't so NICE, I would find you and punch you in the nose. *****

This handsome guy graduated from high school!  


And this handsome guy too...

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I don't know how everyone else feels, but I think political correctness has run amuck in the last few years and it's getting to the point of being ridiculous!  I probably shouldn't elaborate on that one too much, but anyhow......just thought I would throw that in at this point since I'm rambling in general.

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We took a little trip down to see our youngest grands and had a great time.  

While we were there, our son took us to his new office and.....ahem......we hope he kept his job after the grands got through with the office!  

Charley typed a memo.....


John tried on a hard hat.....

AND....signed a few forms that he felt should go out immediately!


Pappy with one happy grandson and one not so happy one!

Popsicles.....

Me too, Nana!


Swimming with Pappy and Nana...

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We hope our older grands come this summer and I'm working on that now.  Wishing they all lived a little closer!

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Recently, the little grands made the trip here to see all of us in North Florida.  As you can see, we had a wonderful toy for them......the basket we put our newspapers in until trash day!  They loved having Pappy give them rides!


Charley went with us to Sunday School

And....loved being a part of this little group!


 We had a little cookout/swim day to celebrate Charley's 4th birthday......Uncle David and Jordan joined the party.


Pappy and Nana finally got a picture with our little guys .......


and we snapped a four generation picture with Mema, Pappy, Tommy, Charley and John

 Mommy, Daddy and boys

Charley had a great time blowing out his candles.....can't believe he's four!


John just had a great time playing


Charley got a balance bike for his birthday.......he wanted to know where the pedals were!

Sisters

Swimming

Near the end of the day, Charley politely asked Uncle Dick if he could have a turn in the wheelchair!  I guess he thought Uncle Dick was hogging the wheels!

Only one brother was able to be with us....

Uncle Matt came after work...

Pappy is always the cook


Thanks Uncle Mike for keeping the cook company!


To those of you who have emailed and been so sweet to ask how I was doing, thank you!  I know this is just rambling and way too many pictures, but it's the best I can do at the moment.



Wednesday, March 5, 2014

The Long Goodbye....Mama

I wasn't sure I was going to continue blogging and I'm still not sure sure, but I'm half sure so here we go.....

Death is a curious thing.  I've experienced it with my parents in two ways.  Daddy died suddenly and mama died slowly.  Which is better/worse?  I don't know what everyone else thinks, but over the last few years, I have come to believe that as shocking as sudden death may be, watching a loved one slowly slip away is torture.  

Mama had been unable to walk and had periods of hallucinating for several years now, and had stopped really wanting to even watch t.v., but we weren't expecting her death to be imminent.

On Sunday morning, January 26, I was backing my car out of the garage on my way to Sunday School when I got a call from mama's caregiver.  Nikki is like a sister (age wise I guess I should say daughter) and in the five years she has worked for mama, she has only called me one other time to say she thought something was really wrong.  She just said please come..... so I turned right instead of left and drove to mama's home at the retirement center.  

As I started that way, I called the hospice nurse and then called my older brother.  When I got to her apartment, mama was completely non responsive.  When hospice got there, they said she probably wouldn't live through the day.....so we called our other siblings.  Monday, they said she wouldn't live through the day and Tuesday the weekday nurse just shook his head.  Mama died the following Sunday.  Eight long days we spent time with her and with each other.  We sang hymns to her and talked to her about going to heaven, about seeing Jesus, daddy and all of her siblings.  We looked through picture albums, we talked, we laughed, we cried.  Our sweet sister in law stayed a night so we could get some rest......but that rest included waiting for the phone to ring and thoughts of what was to come and how to handle the inevitable.

While we were waiting, I looked through mama's Bible to see if she had special scriptures highlighted and found the following scriptures she had written.  I hope you can click on the picture and read them......she titled these scriptures....."Things God wants us to do..."
And this is the way she lived.



The service celebrating mama's life was so like her.....from her own words to the words others had to say about her.  I kept thinking that the end of a person's life is not their life.  That person who has grown old and changed is still the young girl who loved life and her family and her God.  

I haven't the words to adequately describe mama to those who didn't know her, so I'm going to use pictures.

She was a really cute little toddler who wielded a mean sling shot

A bridesmaid


Having fun with a friend...


Wedding day


At the Grand Canyon.....I was holding the back of her sweater and she was saying "quit"....Daddy said...."one thing for sure, if you fall over, Nancy's getting that sweater!"

With the one she loved!


Mama loved the beach

She loved being our mama.....most of the time!


Mama was NOT that person in the bed at the end of her life.  She was a child of God, a fun loving girl, a daughter, sister, wife, mama, aunt and friend.  Mama loved to laugh and dance and go to the beach.  She danced at the USO as a teenager and on top of the Dixie Sherman Hotel.  

Mama's gone now.  Her apartment is cleaned out and is already rented to someone else.  She resides in heaven in the room Jesus prepared for her and where thanks be to our Savior, we will join her one day!

I got many cards and all of them meant so much, including one from a childhood neighbor and friend.  But one card in particular meant and will continue to mean so much.....this is what was written....

"Dear Nancy,  It was a privilege to know your mother.  When I first came to Wallace Memorial (our church), we were both members of the same circle and the Wednesday night Bible study.  Her life and witness was a blessing to me then.  I think her greatest accomplishment, however, was within her own family, raising another generation in "the fear and admonition of the Lord."  How wonderful it is to see so many of you in church every Sunday....and in positions of service within the church."  

I had no idea of mama's influence on this woman, but I probably should have because that's just who my mama was....she went quietly about her life influencing people through the way she lived.  What a challenge to all of us children to live our lives like mama!  


With her children on her 90th birthday


Mary Margaret Anderson Duncan
September 14, 1923 - February 2, 2014

Monday, January 6, 2014

2013 comes to a close....Goodbye, hello???




Goodbye year 2013, you've been an interesting twelve months but we have to move on to a brand new year now, filled with possibilities and challenges.

The year has come to a close and I realized that I haven't been here in over a month, almost two now and sadly I haven't visited you much in that time.  I guess I should make a resolution now to be better about visiting.......I resolve to try, how's that?  But I do not resolve to use prepositions right......I just can't fight that fight this year.  

Several posts were started about me and the Superhero taking our annual Christmas card photo, but time just seemed to get away.  Then I was going to post about our grandson's first birthday, but time just kept on trooping along, things getting in the way and suddenly it was Thanksgiving and I was going to post about our family get together.   

And then....... well then we got the news that changed our whole way of thinking........our whole family's way of life.......my precious sister had a suspicious mammogram, then a biopsy then the news with that word no one wants to hear.....cancer.  Quite frankly, we were all shocked and terrified.  There were uncertainties that had to be determined and we started praying and asking others to pray.  We started seeing answers to prayer all around and in each situation.  God moved and the Christmas miracle for 2013 was that the cancer was not in any other part of her body!  

Several of us went over for the results of the PET scan and praised God as the doctor gave us the good/bad news.....she did indeed have breast cancer but it hadn't spread to any other site in her body.  Afterwards, drained but a bit relieved, we went to Cathy's favorite place to eat and this is what the waitress wrote on her receipt.  



If I have learned one thing from blogging, it is that prayer spreads around the world at a rapid pace and that God hears the prayers of His people.  So let me just assure you now that every prayer is appreciated!  Please add my sister to your personal prayer list and your church prayer chain.


And the treatment began.....


This week will be the fourth treatment with twenty to go, then surgery.  We firmly grasp hold to the belief that she will be completely healed and well at the end of this journey.  But a journey it is and as journeys often are, it isn't an easy one......there are days of tears and uncertainties and fears......  but we have a sovereign God and know that He is in control and that comforts!

Funny how time passes no matter what is going on in our lives and 2013 has gone and 2014 is here holding it's secrets and seasons for us to discover along the way.

Just a few things that happened in 2013 in pictures....and in no particular order.....

Grandson #1 came to visit

Granddaughter #1 came too, but this year they came at different times so we got to have one on one time with both


Grandson Charley came to visit while "Dashley" was here and had a good time with her

Son, David and his wife Arwen became grandparents on the first day of 2013


Another grandson came to live in Florida this year

An old friend, almost son, got married


The Superhero's mom had knee replacement surgery and we spent a few days in the hospital


Got together with some old, young friends


Said goodbye to some friends who moved 


Great grandson came to visit


Grandson # 2Charley got a new baby brother....grandson #3 and spent part of 2013 deciding to let him stay..... 


and then becoming best friends for life


I got a new car


Got to see these almost daughters and their children for a few short hours


Not nearly enough of this

Mama turned 90 and all her children were with her on her birthday

We added to our family.....welcome to Andrew and all his family......Andrew and niece Christina got married at midnight on the last day of 2013


The Superhero and I did self portraits again this year and some of them weren't suitable for printing, but some were ok


Trying to keep God's Word hidden in our hearts and living in our lives


Granddaughter #2 and her husband and baby came to visit


Sweet friends visited


We gained a new Ugandan son


A good friend got married.....what a celebration


Another couple of friends got married

Of course, that's not nearly all that happened in 2013, but if I wrote it all down you might want to have me committed!  

It was a good year, it was a sad year, it was a year of ups and downs.  It's over and now ready or not, here we are 2014!

I hope it's a good year for all of us here in the blog world.