Tuesday, October 30, 2007


I was reading on another blog about family traditions. Our family has several family traditions, but that isn't what I want to say today. One of my dreams has been to have a family portrait....by that I mean me, my husband, my son, his exwife (I consider her a daughter), the grandchildren including their half sister because if she is part of them, then she must be part of me, my youngest bio son, my stepson and his wife and the youngest. I want it to be a picture full of happy faces and I want to hang it over our mantle so that everyone who visits can see our family, our entire family. I have thought about this for several years. I don't see it happening because everyone is so scattered.

I understand what Angie means when she says after a divorce it is different. In fact I wouldn't mind having the father and mother of our children in the family photo....after all they are part of the family. This is one of the reasons I try so hard to advise people to do whatever it takes to have their family unit stay together. I know that God takes whatever mess we make and makes it work out for His glory, but it would be so much easier if we just lived by His Word.

I will always want that portrait. I can take pictures of everyone and just frame then all together. That wouldn't be the same. I could photo shop them (as if I knew how). That wouldn't be the same either. I have always loved the Christmas cards with the children on them, but I never could do that because I couldn't get a picture of them all together.

I'm so grateful to God that I have each and every one of my children and grandchildren and that God has given me so many blessings. DH said one time that he thought it wasn't so much the portrait I wanted but what it represents...a family united. I'm keeping the dream because sometimes dreams do come true!


Tonja said...

I can certainly understand why you would want a portrait like that. It speaks to your kindness and forgiving spirit that you would include 'every' member. Who knows? It may yet happen.

Ang baylis said...

I think you should really try to make it happen. What a great idea! It would be nice to have everyone in it. I want peace for my kids so they can have healthy relationships. It starts with me REALLY forgiving their father. I've noticed that when I am okay with things, they are as well! I love your idea!

Thanks for this wonderful post!
Angie xoxo

staringintotheabyss said...

i'm sorry that i made that picture impossible......but i think i'm finally starting to learn about relationships. maybe.