Thursday, April 17, 2008

Up and Down

Russell's dad is home again. He came home with hospice, but I'm not sure how long that will last. This is a very difficult transition period for my MIL. She is frightened (I believe ) of the many changes that are taking place. She's secure with the home health they had before this hospital visit and has already decided she doesn't like hospice. We are treading lightly and trying to just "be there". Of course, this is also about it being my DH's daddy so it is hard for him in so many ways. He's worried about his mama and sad about his daddy.

Almost 12 years ago, my daddy had a pleasant night, went home to bed and dropped dead. Shock! Oh, yes, horribly. But looking back, God was so merciful to us. No decisions had to be made, no indignity for daddy. It was a blessing. Very hard to lose him, but very blessed that he went the way he went.

Tax season is over for another year! That means I actually see my husband more! In real living self! We had planned a little motor home trip, but cancelled. We just don't want to get too far away right now. So after a couple crises, we drove over to Destin for a few hours. If you ever get there and go the The Grand Boulevard, a good place to eat is Cantina Laredo. We had a great lunch there and then shopped!!! I was itching to shop. A little retail therapy. Unfortunately I didn't get into a shoe store, but did get to Coldwater Creek and Chico's. Two of my favorites.

Today, I'm frantically cleaning house. Son and wife are coming tomorrow to visit with papa so I need for them to at least have clean sheets. :) Honestly, I've been gone so much that my cleaning schedule has gone out the window. So I'll be dusting, vacuuming and mopping until time to take my mother to the doctor.

See you all soon!


leslie said...

Sorry to hear about the hospice situation and praying that your FIL will not suffer. I remember when my Dad passed away last year, when the time came and I was able to tell him it was okay to go and be with Mom and I promised him we'd be okay, he seemed to relax and just let go. He drifted peacefully away. I hope it'll be like that for your dear FIL.

The woman I roomed with when I went to Italy in 2006 lives in Destin. She also has a home in Atlanta - lots of $$$. She was really nice and invited me to come visit, but in my case it's lack of $$$. I hear it's beautiful there with gorgeous beaches. Maybe some day.

Thx for popping over to suggest where to go. I go there lots and still haven't met anyone. It's funny but I see men looking at me all the time, but they never come up and talk. e.g. I was at lunch with my 2 sisters and this man was out for lunch with his wife and another couple, and every time I looked up, he was watching me. Now, of course, I wouldn't want him to speak to me since it was obvious he was married, but that's just the latest example. I just keep waiting on the Lord's timing. *sigh*

Needled Mom said...

You know, when you can stand back from the whole situation it is a real blessing for the person to go as your father did. It is so hard at the time but, in reality, what a wonderful way to go. The indignity, the suffering and just the worrying about what you are doing to your loved ones is so hard.

Glad that you were able to get a little shopping done. Those are my two favorite stores as well. We actually have a Chico's outlet about 15 minutes from us and I LOVE it.

Have a good weekend and enjoy the visit.

Dawn said...

Hospice is a wonderful organization, but when they arrive, it is a feeling of the end coming. Is he in that position? Poor Mom!

Tonja said...

Well, I am glad he is out of the hospital and being well cared for. Your MIL is prob just not ready to accept what hospice means. I'm so sorry. I pray she will have peace about the situation and realize that it will actually make his days more comfortable and productive. I know this is a difficult time for you all. You have my prayers and best wishes. Tonja

He Knows My Name said...

been thinking about you nancy. i'm sorry you have so much on your plate. these are tough times. i'm glad you got your hubby back and he took you out for therapy. i just got me some therapy by cleaning leaves from all around the house, under bushes and getting a little dirt under my finger nails. may your fil's last days be full of love and peace. hugs ~janel

Josie said...

Gosh, I just read over your last few posts, and you have a lot on your plate right now! I hope your father in law does not suffer long. That is the worst, when folks hang on for too long and they suffer. Sometimes it's peaceful when they go quickly, like your father did. Somehow I get the feeling your father was not that old, though, and you weren't ready to lose him.

I hope all will be well with you and your family.